Hi friend,
Do you have difficulty knowing what your part is in a situation and what isn’t? Are you the one everyone comes to when they need help, the “strong” one? Do you find yourself exhausted from the daily grind of being the responsible one? Have you hit the wall from years of trying to please everyone because it’s draining your life? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, we need to get together because there are life tools and skills that will help you overcome co-dependency; that is what it’s called and put you in charge of your life.
Here’s a part of my journey. If I can be well, so can you.
Have you found that pain is a great catalyst for change? I know that I have.
I found that as an adult, life was becoming more and more painful due to misplaced values. I had been conditioned early in life to care for others but not myself.
Not only was I affected, but also those I love the most.
For 23 years I have been attending, leading, and started 12 Step Support Group Meeting for those seeking emotional wellness. The 12 Steps are Biblical Principles, so they hold the power to transform lives.
One common thread that brings us together in these meetings is that life has not been kind to us and much of that stemmed from our inability to accept and deal with reality. Somewhere along the line, we absorbed the need to take on responsibility that was not ours. The common name for such a malady is co-dependency.
Reality always wins so having the tools and skills to navigate life head on made all the difference.
My default position has changed, so have my motives. I no longer protect myself in unhealthy ways. I accept no less than to love well and to be loved well. Others may not always perceive that as such but that’s okay, there was a time when I didn’t either.
I stay in my lane and keep myside of the street clean by daily taking a personal inventory, admitting when I am wrong, doing my part, and leaving the rest to God. Learning these truths has brought me great freedom. Life truly is good and what a relief knowing that I don’t have to be responsible for everything. I can give others the dignity to find their way just like I found mine.
I went into emotional recovery to get well, and I stay to give back. What does giving back look like? It’s adding value to others through sponsoring, leading, and service.
Experience has taught me that when you accept your worth, you will never settle for less than who you were created to be. Learning this through painful personal experiences, I have gained the tools to extend a hand to those who are ready to start their own journey.
Love,
Sheri Lea